Today I really wanted to join in on the countless Facebook posts regarding the Supreme Court’s ruling on Same Sex Marriage. Reading the comments of folks was both encouraging and disheartening as the full spectrum of humanity- love to hate, was exposed yet again like it has been by so many events this year. Thankfully, there was grace for me and I had restraint to craft my words more intentionally and think about what I want to communicate.
To my friends who have felt second class, judged, and kept from equal rights, I stand by you and celebrate with you today. This is big. As a Christian, and a Pastor, I know there is a tremendous amount of healing that needs to be done and that my community has deeply hurt the LGBT community for decades. For that I mourn and ask for your forgiveness. While I fully acknowledge the need for healing and reconciliation, and that this must to continue on into the future, today we can celebrate together.
Congratulations to my teachers, my friends, my family, and to those in my church community who now stand with equal rights and privileges. I can’t imagine what this day must mean to you.
For my friends in the LGBT community, today must be overflowing with emotions. The beauty of feeling free to love. The relief of never thinking this day would come. The comfort of feeling heard, respected, and treated with dignity. The pride of equality. The hope that justice is real and that things can get better. The joy of not having to be alone forever.
Today I stand with you. Stoked.
To my friends who identify with that infamous first century jewish radical who loved so sacrificially that it cost him everything, let us lead with the grace and humility he modeled today. Our call is not to be right on a particular position on any given issue, but rather to follow Christ as he loves all. Today let us be challenged by the reality that reconciliation is a higher call than rightness of belief or position. So no matter where you lean with regards to how you theologically define marriage, your first obligation is love.
For those of my friends who don’t agree with today’s decision, that’s alright. Take a deep breath. The sky hasn’t fallen. Consider what love obligates you to today, and at the very least try to understand and empathize with those who have felt oppressed and unheard for so long.
If you’d like to seriously engage this conversation further, I’d love to process with you- but mostly in person. Also, I’ve added a list of books in case you’re ready think through this stuff with a fresh perspective.
Oh and also- know that at least at our church community all our welcome, and we really mean it:
A Letter to My Congregation:
Torn: Rescuing the Gospel from the Gay/Straight Debate:
God and the Gay Christian: